Notes from lecture by Shaykh Kamaluddin (http://www.islamicspirituality.org)
1. Wudhu is her shield
Wudhu is our shield against Shaytaan and is so vital to our spiritual well-being that Allah SWT commanded us to be in Wudhu for Salaah, whilst reciting the Qur’aan and during Tawaaf of the Ka’aba.
When in wudhu, the ability to do Dhikr is increased. Without wudhu, this ability decreases.
Since Dhikr increases the weight of each act of worship (Giving Sadaqah with Dhikr, doing Khidmah with Dhikr, etc) Wudhu is indispensable as it shields us from Shaytaan and increases the likelihood that we will be in the remembrance of Allah, thus increasing the amount and weight of our Aamaal e saalih (Good deeds).
We must realize the Barakah (Blessings) of Wudhu, it may be a source of peace in the home, noor in the food that we prepare, ease in the relationships that we have.
Being in wudhu enables us to offer our Salaah on time, increasing the time that we receive the barakah of that Salaah. For instance, if you offer Dhuhr at its fixed time, and Asr is six hours later, you become a recipient of the Barakah of Dhuhr Salaah for six hours, up to the time that you offer Asr at its fixed time; as opposed to offering Dhuhr an hour before you are due to offer Asr.The Dhaakira is always in a state of Wudhu, as soon as her Wudhu becomes nullified, she renews it. She is protected from Shaytaan, shielded by Wudhu and is always in a state of physical purity, which leads to purification of her Qalb, her thoughts, her actions, her speech and her sight.
2. She recites the Masnoon (Sunnah) Duaas
If you don’t know the Masnoon Duaas off by heart, read them out of a book, but don’t miss out on practising the Sunnah ! Allah loves when we call out to Him with the same words as His Nabi SAW! So these Duaas are a means of becoming a friend of Allah!
Recitation of these Duaas increases the Barakah of our time.
3. Shukr – She Acknowledges the bounties of Allah and is grateful for them
Gives thanks to Allah in every situation.
A dhaakira Is always conscious of the reasons that she should thank Allah SWT, His bounties are innumerable. She is conscious of them and gives thanks for them.
Allah SWT will grant you more if you show thanks for what He Has already given you.
The best way of showing thanks to Allah SWT is to use His Ni’mah (blessings) in His Obedience. Look at what makes Allah happy – read the Qur’aan, listen to what makes Allah happy – listen to the Ahadith etc. When we use the Ni’mah of Allah against Him, this is a grave show of ingratitude for the bounties that Allah Has Blessed us with and Allah becomes displeased with us.
4. She is Patient
She turns to Allah in every difficulty.
The more Shukr you do, the more Sabr you will have.
Be-shukr –> be-sabr. Ingratitude leads to impatienceThe dhaakira knows that Allah will make everything better. She trusts Him, she has a connection with Him, she Turns to Him and she cries to Him.
5. She’s Calm and doesn’t react when provoked
When provoked/tried, don’t react, don’t say anything in retaliation, don’t become frustrated, angry or anxious
Practice the Sunnah of Hilm, Zarf and tolerance
Despite being constantly abused, the Prophet SAW did not react to the woman who was responsible for his discomfort, to the extent that He SAW did not even react by using another route to avoid her path. In fact Prophet SAW asked regarding the woman when she didn’t harm him one day.
When put in this position, perform Wudhu, offer two rakaat Nafl Salaah, make Dua, and ask Allah to inspire you with the right course of action. Ask Allah what to do, then do it.
Only fix something in the state of Dhikr, with Allah’s help, after having waited, after having sought Allah’s help.
More Dhikr, more barakah. How much barakah do you want?
Everything in the Deen (Religion) must be learnt. Just as tafseer, tajweed and Hadith need to be learnt, so we should learn Dhikr from the Mashaaikh.
Learn Dhikr from the Mashaaikh to become of the Dhaakiraat. Become of the Dhaakiraat and feel the Barakah of that Dhikr
The Five Aamaal of our Mashaa’ikh
1 Recite Qur’aan
Dhikr of Qur’aan is tilaawah, recited in Arabic. This is separate from ilm of Qur’aan which is tafseer and tarjuma.
Read the letters of your Beloved untiringly, every single day. Not a single day should be empty of tilawah
2. Istighfaar
We make many mistakes and the lover always asks forgiveness from her Beloved so make up with Allah everyday.
Whilst you beg for forgiveness, feel feelings of shame and guilt but with hope of Mercy
Ask for forgiveness of all your sins due to which you cannot worship Allah as He Should be worshipped
3. Durood
Feel that you are an ummatiyyah (an Ummati of the Beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW). Feel that Nabi SAW is your Messenger and you are his ummati.
Say that you are from the family of Nabi SAW, do not invite me to sin, I cannot go towards any sin because i am the spiritual daughter of Maryam AS, Aasiya RA, Aa’isha RA, Faatima RA…
Because of this, the Dhaakira interacts, behaves in a certain way, a way which shows that she is from the Ummah of Imaam ul Ambiya (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Him)
4. Wuqoof e Qalbi
Remind your heart to remember Allah. Every few minutes through the day, check your heart to see if you are remembering Allah.
Feel that Allah is near you, feel love for Him, feel fear for Him, feel Awe for Him, always be connected to Allah in some way.
5. Muraaqaba
“And remember of the Name of your Lord”
Isolate yourself mentally and physically from the world, make niyyah (intention) to forget the whole world including your own thoughts, worries and fears.
Remember Allah humbly, silently, secretly in the heart of your rooh (inner being).
Feel your Qalb (Heart) calling ALLAH ALLAH ALLAH.
This will help you in all your ibaadah (worship) outside muraqaba.